Well my life has taking a major turn. My father had a massive stroke and was in the intensive care unit but now is out in a rehabilitation center. So far he's not doing so well. If he doesn't get well or show any improvement the next decision is for him to be put in either a nursing home or go home only if my mom has help. Due to the fact that he never wanted to be put in a nursing home and my mom is very strong about not letting him go, I will have to move back home and help out. So there fore i will have to quit school although my program surgical tech is due to start in the spring quarter. This it's a sacrifice I'll have to make until what ever journey the lord want him to take. I went home for a while and let me tell you it's no joke. It's very stressful and tiring. My mom is holding on to faith and determine he's coming home and it sad to see that this is something she may not have any control over. But there's nothing like a praying wife.
It hard when I have a brother at home and about 7 step silbling out of town. All they can say is whatever decision mom make we support her. Hell what kind of support financially , physical or just you calling. I mean we have enough sibling that can come down and be able to rotate a week here or there. But when ask what kind of suport can you come down at least until I finish out my quarter Dec 14 I hear Either I'm tapped out with my leave , my brother "people have to work they can't just up and quit their job. But yet I'm the youngest of the family and I guess me sacrficing my schooling, relocating and moving my my child and life back home while DH is in Iraq is something normal. They don't seem to see I'm giving up alot to and sacrficing. But I must do what I have to do. I no this is my choice and I can't question other choices. But this is your father for goodness sake. I 'm trying to look at it as a blessing to be able to do this but it will be great sacrfice. It's just sad to see other sibling whose in way better finanical situtaion then me be so selfish. I guess I'm wrong to even think that people would go out their way to help their parents in a time of need. But it is what it is.
So I haven't been working out at all . I've been doing is trying to stay up on my school work, stressing and trying to end this quarter strong on top of been far away and worrying about my mom and dad. I'll be taking our youngest son out of school and enrolling him in school back home. DH is been very supportive which whatever decision i make. Which is really helpful. Plus DH and I are now on the same page wit each other. Which is a great thing.
We are talking more and he's expressing his feeling more. Been over in Irag and seeing what other soilders is going thru with their wife cleaning out their account, been caught cheating and etc made him start to question our relationship. Although, he knows what type of wife he has. But when it hit close to home then i guess it'll make you question it. One of his close friend wife got caught by their oldest daughter having sex in the house with another man while their father is in Iraq. So they are now going thru a divorce even thou he still want his marriage. But his wife has taken the kids and move back home. So I'm just trying to make sure my mom is alright and taking it one day at a time.
Whatever you do please take time out to research what long term care is , scarfice and invest in getting some for yourself and parents. Especially if they are so aganist going to the nursing home. Have that talk with your parents find out what they have and know where all their financial documents are. So you want be blindsided. Don't ust ask them make sure they show you. Because whenever i ask my parents they asure me everything was straight. But my mom doesn't have a clue where everything is. You know how secretive older people can be. A good book to help you which is one I read a long time ago Smart Women Finish Rich by David Bach is what made me bring up the question about finances with my mom. But i guess I didn't do a good enough follow up thru plan. Great way to start off the new years.
Well later got to finish up school work.
